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A Bouquet of
Questions and

By Robin Hilborn

First edition, 2002
$12 / ISBN 0-9687944-5-9

20 post-adoption questions in these categories:

Medical tests
Birth family abroad
Explaining adoption
Tax credits
Parental leave benefits
Company benefits
Orphanage children

Find answers to questions like these:

Where can we find growth charts for our child?
Can I find my child's birth family abroad?
How much can I tell my child about adoption?
How do I get citizenship for my child?
Where can I get help with adoption expenses?
How much paid leave can I get?
Can I breastfeed my adopted baby?
How do I get my child to sleep?

How to order Post-adoption Potpourri

Post-adoption Potpourri answers your post-adoption questions about tax credits, paid leave, citizenship, subsidies, breastfeeding, sleeping, handling racism, and explaining adoption to your child. (See below for an excerpt.)

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Price in Canada is Can$12. In the U.S., US$12. Elsewhere, US$18.
Robin Hilborn is publisher of the Post-adoption Helper series.

Post-adoption Potpourri is also available (No. 11) at a discount ($9) when you order four or more titles from the Family Helper series. See the form at Family Helper, and choose the editions you'd like to order.


From the Introduction to Post-adoption Potpourri
By Robin Hilborn

A bouquet of questions and answers

In this edition of Post-adoption Helper I've used the same question-and-answer format as in the last Adoption Helper ("Pre-adoption Potpourri"). The difference is that Post-adoption Helper is read in both Canada and the United States, so the answers at times need to consider two perspectives.

Often this is not a problem -- adoptive families everywhere face similar challenges -- but sometimes the jurisdiction matters, as when we discuss legalities like tax credits, parental leave and subsidies.

I think you'll find instructive the comparison of services between Canada and the U.S. If I may make a broad generalization, post-adoption services in the U.S. are far advanced over those in Canada.

It seems the only advantage of living north of the border is that federal law in Canada provides for 35 weeks of paid parental leave, while U.S. federal law gives American adopters 12 weeks of unpaid leave. (Mind you, the comparison is much more complicated at the provincial and state levels.)

Apart from that, Americans have the edge in a generous income tax credit for adoption expenses, automatic citizenship for adoptees from abroad, federal and state subsidies, and lots of adoption benefits from U.S. companies.

With money a pressing concern these days, I thought it appropriate to spend time on financial matters, but not exclusively ... so you'll find answers to your questions on breastfeeding, sleeping, racism and explaining adoption to your child. Finding your child's birth family in an international adoption is tackled by the resourceful Leceta Guibault. And a highlight is the remarkable story of Dave and Deb Ciccarelli -- they expected two children from Russia, but got four.

For those who've asked me for some good books about adoption, I've concluded with list of the best books on 11 post-adoption topics.

My sources for this Post-adoption Potpourri were a variety of government and private web sites, past editions of Adoption Helper and Post-adoption Helper, "News Briefs" at Family Helper web site, and last but not least, an email list, Canadians-adopting, which has all sorts of useful suggestions on raising adopted children. You'll find the comments from Canadians-adopting in the margins.

I've found one of the best sources for U.S. information is the National Adoption Information Clearinghouse, and you'll see the note "[NAIC]" when I've used its information.

Other good sources are the Adoptive Families Association of British Columbia (AFABC) and the North American Council on Adoptable Children (NACAC).

To find out more about any of these questions, or the sources, consult the resources in Post-adoption Helper No. 10, Post-adoption Resource Guide.

How to order Post-adoption Potpourri


In 1995 Adoption Helper received an Ontario Adoption Award from the Adoption Council of Ontario, "in recognition of its outstanding contribution to the adoption community of Ontario."

In 1997 Jennifer Smart, editor of Post-adoption Helper, received an Ontario Adoption Award from the Adoption Council of Ontario for her work on behalf of adoption causes.

In 2001 Robin Hilborn received an Adoption Activist Award from the North American Council on Adoptable Children for "dedicated work in making adoption information more accessible and providing materials for post-adoptive support".

Robin Hilborn edits and publishes Post-adoption Helper magazine. He also edits and publishes Adoption Helper magazine, helping people adopt since 1990. His email address is

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Contact: Robin Hilborn,
220 Summerhill Rd., Southampton, Ont. N0H 2L0 Canada
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Updated   Apr. 13, 2009

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